Uncategorized – Rooted Skies

For a long time, I didn’t realize I was shrinking my life.

Nothing was obviously wrong. I was functioning. Showing up. Doing what I was supposed to do. From the outside, everything looked fine.

But underneath that, I was playing smaller than I needed to.

I was quiet in moments where I had something to say.
I hesitated to go after opportunities that felt just slightly out of reach.
I told myself I needed more time, more clarity, more confidence.

And for a while, that felt reasonable.

But eventually, I had to be honest with myself:
Nothing external was actually stopping me.

I was choosing what felt safe.

I was choosing not to be fully seen.
Not to take the risk.
Not to test what I was actually capable of.

And the hardest part is—shrinking doesn’t always feel like fear.
Sometimes it feels like responsibility. Like patience. Like “being realistic.”

It sounds like:

“Now isn’t the right time.”
“I just need to get a little more prepared.”
“I’ll do it later.”

But “later” can stretch longer than we realize.

At some point, I started noticing the pattern.

I wasn’t stuck—I was hesitating.
I wasn’t unready—I was uncertain.
And instead of moving through that uncertainty, I was letting it make my decisions for me.

So I’ve been asking myself a different question lately:

Am I about to shrink, or am I about to expand?

And the answer isn’t always comfortable.

Because choosing to expand means:

speaking when it would be easier to stay quiet
showing up before I feel fully ready
going after things I might not get

But it also means I get to find out what’s actually possible for me.

I don’t think shrinking is something we choose once; I think it’s something we choose over and over again, quietly, in small moments.

And tllll he same is true for expansion.

So right now, I’m practicing choosing differently.
Not perfectly. Not all at once. But intentionally.

Because I don’t want to look up one day and realize I built a life that only reflects what felt safe.

I want a life that reflects what I was willing to grow into. 🌱

Nova.Skye 🧘🏾‍♀️

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After finishing my meal of BBQ chicken wings and hibachi rice, I was trying to clear my mind. I recognized that hunger had kept me in darkness, affecting my mood. Having been on mom duty since 8, I felt tense and hangry.

Sunset are my time to reflect and disconnect. I enjoy gazing at the delightful skies filled with orange, pink, indigo, and blue hues. Mother Nature is an artist 👩🏽‍🎨, and she shows us her talent every day.

The sunsets remind you that another day is reaching a close. It’s time to reflect on the great things that happened in your day and on how you want to show up the next day.

Sunsets offer me opportunities to be grateful for the small moments of kindness that came my way through the day.

Today, before I decided to stop dragging my feet and get this blog post out – because imposter syndrome tends to hold me back — as I prepare to edit this post, winter storm Fern is approaching. Tonight, I didn’t see the charming sunsets I’ve grown used to. Nevertheless, I was still present for the sunset. My family was here with me. I was able to enjoy another day and night in my happy home. I can’t feel bad about that for too long.

I’m sure I’ll see another sunset that I am accustomed to, and I will be so grateful to see it.

We often take Mother Nature for granted. Next time you get to experience a sunset or the beauty that Mother Nature still offers us despite how we treat her, say thank you, and mean it.

Nova.Skye ✨